What do we take for granted?

As I write this, it’s the tail end of 2011. I know it’s an arbitrary point in the earth’s annual journey around the sun, but even if only for a little while, it’s as good a time as any to reflect on life.

A friend of mine commented the other day how much he appreciated being part of a stable family. Evidently growing up he had a pretty tough time; not a very happy or secure childhood, bad first marriage, poor relationship with his kids, etc. but now he’s part of happy and extended family (through a second marriage). He was commenting how much he appreciated being welcomed into that family and made to feel a part of it. What struck me most about it is that he’s been in his second family for 40 years now, and yet he still feels strongly enough to comment. It made me start thinking about what I take for granted.

We live in the wealthiest society in the history of the world. What we call lower middle class in the US is still pretty well off, when compared to the standards of the entire world. We sometimes forget that, even in these difficult economic times most of us in the US have a home to live in, adequate food and clothing. Sure, we complain about how the tanking of the economy has affected our lives, and I don’t mean to trivialize what this has done to a lot of people in our society (the fact that nearly 20% of our population doesn’t have access to decent health care is another rant), but still, viewed from the perspective of the entire world we’re in pretty good shape.

From a personal perspective: I’m in good health, have a good job doing something I love to do; I’m happily married and have a wonderful home, extended family and support system. Right now I’m relaxing in front of my fireplace with my two dogs Moses and Lola (who, by the way, think I’m brilliant!)

It really doesn’t get much better.

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Christian fundamentalism and US politics

I have a question that’s been bumping around in my head for a while.

Over the past 20 years or so, there’s been a resurgence of support for fundamentalist Christian theology in the United States, especially in politics. I believe it’s well accepted that the Religious Right got Dubya elected; the fact that he then abandoned virtually every promise he made to them to get their support is irrelevant (see “Tempting Faith” by David Kuo—he was second in command of Bush’s “Office of Faith-Based Initiatives” from 2001 to 2003; in his book he voices his opinion that the office was mostly smoke and mirrors and that none of the initiatives he was supposed to promote actually got put into action). And today I think it’s safe to say that any candidate who doesn’t express a deep and abiding faith has a short political future.

Where does this come from? In Europe, a candidate’s religious beliefs are almost never even brought up; talk to a few people from the Continent (or even the UK, Canada or Australia) and they express mystification over this religiosity rampant in US politics. And not just politics (although that’s where it’s perhaps most visible); school systems are being pressured to teach creationism and a “young earth” view as an alternative to evolution, even though there’s nearly unanimous agreement among earth scientists that evolution is established fact. (The arguments over why it’s called a “theory” when most scientists view it as established is the subject of another posting.)

And note here that I want to differentiate between religiosity and fundamentalism. What we’re seeing is not simply a desire to express faith, but a specific brand of Christianity. As is true in most of the major religions, Christians come in a number of different flavors, all the way from those who interpret the Bible literally, to the view that the Bible is simply a book of allegories and general guidelines for one’s life. The brand of Christianity that seems to be ascendant in politics today is fundamentalism, which takes the Bible as the literal word of God, and believes it should be viewed as historically accurate in every detail and used as a set of specific instructions on how to live our lives.

Fundamental Christianity has interesting roots in the US. In the mid- to late-1800’s a number of religions developed an attitude of activism around politics; they felt that it was their duty to bring Christian values to the country by becoming a part of the political system. Evidently the Biblical mandate to be “in the world but not of it” was superseded by the desire to change society to match their ideal vision. At the time this was a splinter view; today it seems to have taken over as the majority position.

So why is it that this activist attitude continues today? And is there something unique about our society here in the United States that allows, or even promotes this attitude? As you might anticipate, I have some thoughts about that; so stay tuned.

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The source of morality (part 3)

OK, Morality: Part Three.

So we all have a sense of right and wrong. Or most of us anyway, and those who lack that sense are considered abnormal (sociopaths, or at the farthest end of that aberration, psychopaths). In any case, it’s considered “normal” to have a sense of morality. So where does this come for? Many would say it comes from our religion and originates with God. I’ve already written that I don’t think it comes from religion; if that were the case then why don’t we have as many moral codes as there are religions? (Read “The source of morality, parts 1 and 2” in this blog). But maybe looking at religion is the wrong way of going about it. I have argued that religion is just each person’s attempt to understand their connection to god (or God), and as such, is fallible. So let’s go a step higher, bypass religion, and consider that morality comes from God.

Well then, if that’s the case, then how would the concepts of morality get transmitted to each of us? If it’s not through religion, then maybe we had this “put into us;” in other words we’re hard wired for morality. That seems to make sense, given the universality of a sense of right and wrong. But then the question becomes did this come from God, or is it possible there’s another mechanism? Those who believe in God will tell you the answer is obvious: God created us that way; end of story. But if that’s true, why do we wrestle so much with moral dilemmas? If God gave us our moral code, wouldn’t that mean there would be no ambiguity? The “right thing to do” would be obvious in each situation, wouldn’t it? I’m not a parent, but if I were, I would not allow for any ambiguity in my instructions to a child; I’d say “do this” or “don’t do that” with as much clarity as possible. I would think that if it were important enough for God to build this into us, then it would work pretty reliably; more or less like the sense of direction works for migratory birds, spawning salmon, etc. No failures, wrong turns or the like; it’s unfailing. So if God were to give us our morality it seems it would be absolutely reliable. But that’s not what we see; pose a moral dilemma to twenty people and you’ll likely get that many different answers. That doesn’t seem like the way I was taught that God works. Particularly when so much is riding on it: get it wrong and you risk God’s wrath. Seems like something that important would be designed to work exactly the same for all of us.

So the bottom line here: if morality comes from God and we’re hard wired for it, then it seems like he did a pretty poor job of it, because we wrestle with it so much. That in itself should tells us it’s not a God-given, inherent process.

But wait! What about free will? Maybe God DID give us morality, but combine that with free will and presto! We have what we see around us: struggling with morality and moral dilemmas. That’s not really an answer however; that’s another blog entry. Stay tuned.

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Family, traditions and giving thanks

It’s Thanksgiving week. Growing up, we didn’t celebrate holidays (being good Witnesses and all). I didn’t feel like I missed anything; I understood the reasons we didn’t participate in Christmas, Easter, Halloween or the July 4th festivities; they were either pagan in origin (and thus had no place in a good Christian household) or they were patriotic in origin (in which case they also had no place in a good Christian household, but for slightly different reasons). The one exception (grudgingly, in Dad’s case) was Thanksgiving. While there may be some pagan versions of a festival around harvest time, there is also a biblical precedent: the Festival of Ingathering, or celebration of a harvest. So while Witnesses didn’t expressly celebrate it, at least there wasn’t an annual diatribe against Thanksgiving, as there was against Christmas, Easter and the others, pointing out its pagan (and thus unscriptural) origins and warning against such celebrations. So we would trek across the street every Last Thursday of November to Grandma and Grandpa Shaddles’ to join them and the Andersons (our cousins) for a turkey feast. My grandparents always had Thanksgiving dinner at their house, and I think Dad found a loophole or two that he felt made it OK for us to join them (although I think he also always felt guilty about it!) I remember well the smells and sounds of the preparation, the anticipation and then the wonderful dinner followed by the grownups dozing in the living room while we kids played. Dad would make sure we finished in time to get to the the Thursday Meeting in Pontiac, I think partly to salve his conscience; he never quite got past the feeling that he shouldn’t be enjoying himself.

When the three of us got to be adults, we started having our own rituals around Thanksgiving (but without the guilt trip, at least for Kathy and me. I think Jim may still have a pang or two, but it never coalesces into enough of an issue to make him not want to participate.) Anyhow, our traditions now include our version of the same turkey dinner with all the trimmings, lots of champagne consumption, watching movies, doing jigsaw puzzles and in general, eating everything in sight and then cocooning with family. It’s a very important and cherished tradition for me, and I’m pleased beyond measure that Cathy seems to enjoy it as much as I do. I feel no connection to any religious rites or rituals at all; it’s totally secular for me. Instead it’s all about family and a sense of belonging. It gives me an opportunity to spend time with my family and take comfort in our traditions.

And I’m thankful for it.

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The source of morality (Part 2)

I said in an earlier post (The Source of Morality, Part 1) that I don’t think morality comes from religion. Or more specifically, it’s possible to be a highly moral person without religion. So if I’m saying that religion isn’t necessary to be moral, then what is the source of a moral code? Where DOES it come from? Maybe thinking of religion as the source is the wrong way to go about it, since religion (or substitute “faith” if you’d prefer) is simply every person’s attempt to put into practice what they think god wants them to do. They get their ideas of what that means either through listening to their spiritual leaders, or from their own interpretation of the book they accept as god’s word (the Bible, the Quran, the Bhagavad Gita, etc.). But if that’s true and that’s where everyone gets their morality concepts from, you’d think there would be as many different views on morality as there are interpretations of the appropriate holy book. There’s hundreds of religions in Christianity alone, and probably thousands by the time you add up the smaller offshoots, so wouldn’t that lead to hundreds or thousands of different moral codes? But that’s not what we see. Oh sure, there’s lots of minor variations in moral codes, but in general I think you could distill almost all views of morality down to a few simple statements. The Golden Rule kind of sums it up nicely I think: do unto others as you’d like to have them do unto you. Treat others the way you’d like to be treated. Sounds more like a kind of a social contract than anything, it seems to me.

So how would this social contract (if that’s what morality turns out to be) arise? Well, a community arises out of a tribe. Tribes/communities provide their members safety from predators, access to members of the opposite sex, and less chance of starvation because of greater food-gathering capacity. Anthropologists will tell you that virtually every culture in the world has a set of agreements or rules; furthermore there’s a similarity to these rules across most cultures. A strong case has been made that these agreements (stated but more often unstated) give the group the cohesion that keeps them together, which subsequently gives protection to individual members. Safety leads to greater probability of children surviving to adulthood and passing their genes on to future generations. So an argument could be made that a sense of community (one way of defining morality, perhaps) could provide an advantage to getting your genes into the next generation.

There’s some problems with this theory though; I’ll be discussing other thoughts in future postings. At the very least though, I don’t think there’s much starch to the theory that morality must come from a religion or holy book.

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Nearly ready to start woodworking again. Yay!

I build stuff. It sometimes takes several attempts (and band aids) to get it right but it relaxes me and I love the feeling of accomplishment when the coffee table, bookcase, or whatever is done and I can put it into use. I’ve got a great workshop in my garage that unfortunately I haven’t spent any time in for way too long. Too busy at work, too tired when I come home, weekends get filled with other things, etc. etc. etc. And because it’s such a handy place to do so, it became cluttered up with stuff I didn’t have any other place to put…always with the caveat that I was just putting it there for a short time until I could sort through it.

Anyhow, my lovely spousal unit finally got tired of the clutter and scheduled a weekend to clean up. When I said I might not be available that day she said “That’s OK, but I’m going to be tossing stuff and if you’re not there you don’t get to complain later.” So that helped me understand the importance of participating. And to tell the truth it was pretty liberating to finally see my shop emerge again. Then, last weekend I took another step and reorganized my major tools. When we put in new garage doors the salesperson said my dust collection ductwork would not need to be moved, but when the installer was done he’d torn down a significant percentage of my hard work. This necessitated moving machines and re-thinking workflow in the shop, which also required re-running ducts and hooking things back up. So that’s been my project this weekend.

I have managed so far to reaffirm that I’m not a sheet-metal worker by any stretch of the imagination.

All I’ll say is that:
1) thank goodness for duct tape (imagine!), and
2) I’m gonna need to buy more Band Aids.

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The Man burns in 362 days.

Apparently hippies are still around; they’ve just moved from Haight Ashbury to the desert near Reno.

I’m not sure where I first heard of it, but The Burning Man bubbled up to my awareness this weekend; most likely because I probably came across a brief mention of it in the news because it just closed today. It’s a combination of art festival, hippy event and party that takes place on a dried lakebed somewhere out in the high desert northeast of Reno. Seems that a guy started out having an “event” on a beach near San Francisco over 25 years ago, culminating in the burning of a sculpture of a man (hence the title). It seemed like fun so they went back the next year and each year thereafter. At some point it got so big (and of concern to authorities) that it moved out into the desert where it’s been every year since. They have some very interesting and free-form art works there from all over the world, and pretty much the only rule is that pretty much anything goes, and when it’s over everything (and they mean everything!) gets carted away, leaving no trace of their event. They sell tickets and limit the number of attendees (there were something like 30,000 this year), and each person or group has to carry in everything they’ll need (including a gallon and a half of water per day), their own shade, food, and so forth. They do have a group that looks after order, medical emergencies and the like, but rampant nudity (or partial nudity anyway) and anarchy seem to be pretty much the order of the day (pun intended).  The local authorities handle things with grace and discretion (the extra bucks the attendees bring to the area each year probably have something to do with that, it being an economically challenged area and all).

Anyhow we now have Apple TV and a NetFlix account, and in browsing last night I found a documentary of The Burning Man. What a hoot this looks like! I don’t yet have a Bucket List (or not much of one anyhow—seems a bit too “old-manlike” to me) but if/when I do I think The Burning Man may have to be on it.

I made mention of the conclusion of The Burning Man on my Facebook site this morning and got no less than 6 people saying that they have friends, coworkers or acquaintances who’ve attended. A distant cousin said she has a coworker who had 4 tickets, but wasn’t able to go and sold their tickets for $11,000!

Amazing.

Don’t forget, the Man burns in 362 days and counting!

Check out their website!

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More about friendship: intervening or meddling?

Does real friendship include intervening when your friend is doing something that might be destructive or harmful to them? For example, does a true friend have the responsibility to take action to stop you from doing something they think is going to turn out badly? Obviously yes, when it might involve physical harm to yourself or others, as in taking your car keys if you’ve been drinking. (Although you might make the case that’s just common sense—what anyone would do, friend or not!) Less obvious might be when someone’s behavior may have long term consequences, such as smoking or overeating. First of all, I seriously doubt that anyone who smokes today is unaware of its harm, and probably don’t need anyone reminding them of it! So if someone has made that choice fully aware of the consequences, is it an act of friendship to tell them it’s not good for them, or is it simply meddling?

What about personal behavior like staying out partying when tomorrow’s a work day? Should a friend intervene then? I had a friend a number of years ago (we’ve lost touch since, for reasons that will become apparent shortly) who evidently thought that it was the responsibility of her friends to protect her from her own self-destructive behavior. We went out one evening while on a business trip together. When I said I wanted to go back to the hotel she said she was staying out and she’d find her own way back. The next day she berated me for not “making” her come back when I left. If I were “really her friend” I wouldn’t have let her stay out so late. Although this happened over 20 years ago I still think about it; at the time I didn’t understand she was just trying to avoid responsibility for her own behavior by shifting it to me. Not very friendly of her!

So where does friendship fit in? It seems to me that if a person is in command of their faculties and understands the consequences of their behavior (even if in an abstract way), it is meddling to intervene. If they are in some way not in control of their behavior (read:  drunk) then a friend would protect them from their poor choices. But if they refuse, then I would say all bets are off and they will need to pay whatever consequences ensue. Of course, if others may be harmed by a those choices then it’s no longer an act of friendship; I think the only responsible action then would be to take your “friend’s” keys and call a cab!

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The source of morality (Part 1)

Where does morality come from? I mean, when we think about what’s right, how do we decide? I’m no expert in philosophy, but it seems to me that this is not as simple a question as it might seem, when you start to dig into it a little. At first blush it’s easy: something just “is” right or wrong. Okay, but why? Most of us got our initial sense of right and wrong from our parents and extended family. (Aunts, uncles, grandparents and friends). But that ‘s not the origin; they got their morality from somewhere. Trace it back to…what? If not the primary cause, it was likely influenced by religion. But that itself isn’t enough; each religion claims it’s the “correct” one, which by definition means that those adherents believe that all others are wrong. OK, I know, some religions are more ecumenical than others, but even the most inclusive still believe that at the core, they are more “right” than anyone else. So if that’s the source of morality then again, by definition nearly everyone is immoral, since any one religion only represents a small percentage of the total world population. And even the most hardcore believers would admit that at least some people in other religions have a sense of morality.

So religion doesn’t seem right as the source of morality; what about God? Maybe since religion is an attempt to relate to God, is God the source of morality? I’ll save that for next time.

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Is morality situational?

We tend to think that “the right thing” just IS and doesn’t change regardless of circumstances. But think about it for a minute. What’s believed to be moral or “right” in a society DOES change over time. The lyrics from Cole Porter’s song “Anything Goes” illustrates my point:  “In olden days a glimpse of stocking was looked on as something shocking, now heaven knows…anything goes!” At one point in the not-too-distant past, owning other people as property was considered moral by a subset of society. They even found support for their position with the Bible:  the Biblical Israelites (supposedly God’s chosen people) had slaves, so God must’ve approved, right? While there were people who believed it immoral here in the United States, there was certainly no consensus that it was. Today, one of the chief complaints of conservative Muslims against Western society is their perception of our lack of morals because of Western dress styles (among other reasons); clearly most people in the US believe ourselves to be moral even if some in the Middle East might not.

So morality does change over time, and from group to group. Some would say that means that there really IS no objective morality, and that since the view of morality changes with society, maybe everything is relative and to understand morality first requires understanding the context.

But it doesn’t feel right that morality is totally subjective either. There is the sense that some things are wrong no matter what group or circumstances. Taking someone’s life, for no other reason than you can, is probably wrong no matter what the circumstances. (Note that it is the reason, rather than the action itself, that makes it wrong. Killing someone in defense of your family is usually considered justified; even then you’d have to prove the justification.)

So while there ARE things that are wrong in some situations and not in others (and in some societies but not others), it seems to me that there are some things that are just wrong. Morality then can’t be exclusively situational.

 

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